How much do you think about the appearance of people? Do the clothes people wear say a lot about them? How much time do you devote to your own appearance? What part of your appearance are you the most proud of? The least?
Provided that they’re not horrificly ugly, not much.
It depends where you meet them
Probably not enough.
Meh. I don’t pay too much attention to my own appearance, but as i have some facial scars (nose, chin), i would love to do without them.
I don’t pay much attention to how others dress. Arizona is pretty much a t-shirt and jeans state. I am a t-shirt and jeans person. I dress better to go to Baha’i meetings and tend to incorporate scarves and wraps to give my outfit a Middle Eastern touch. If Immortal Pirate dresses in his Pirate clothing, then I dress in either womanly pirate, or wench. It depends on what my mood is. I have many pieces and dresses that are pirate/wench themed. I don’t like to wear the same outfit twice to whatever pirate themed event we are going to. If Immortal Pirate is going to dress in his kilt, I complement his attire with a Scottish long dress in the same Black Watch Tartan plaid as Immortal’s kilt. I add other pieces with it in layers. It is fun to dress up. I bought Immortal Pirate an elegant basket hilt Highland Claymore (big ass sword) and all the leather sheaths and belts to hold it at his side.
Last night, Immortal Pirate wore his kilt and all his authentic accessories — without the sword— and we went out to the Claim Jumper Restaurant for dinner. All eyes notice him. I did not feel like dressing up and trudged along behind him in jeans and t-shirt. We went to Hobby Lobby to look around. He lost me in the store and had my name called out on the sound system. I said, “Dumbass Scotsman! Where is he?” and about a dozen people pointed to where he was. He stands out in the crowd.
@Scarlett Well, it is not like we are not living together. He will say, “Let’s go out to eat somewhere. Where would you like to eat?” or, “Let’s go see a movie.” and then we go out to dinner and a movie. Yes, he pays for dates half the time. We have a household budget that allows for food in restaurants and going out to have some fun.
A fair amount; for it is their “visual identity”. It speaks volumes about the person, if we will let it do so without trying to attach undue judgement.
My own appearance?
I’m a guy.
And I live in a truck that is probably not much larger than a pantry! And almost all of my time and energy is devoted to a rough and mobile lifestyle. My clothes reflect this. Even my “good jeans” sport a bit of grease and signs of wear . . . because when something arises, like an emergency, you cannot always take time to change.
If people want to substitute some judgement on my clothes other than this, that is their freedom.
I think my feet are cute; and my belly bigger than it should be! Other than that, I’m OK!
Really depends. There are some hairstyles and colors that really pop for me. Clothes, not as much. It could say a lot, or the person could be using that to trick people and throw them off. Some of my appearance is because I am lazy. Like, my hair. It is long because I hate taking the time out to cut it. Also, I just don’t really care about many hairstyles for myself. Was always a fan of long hair since I watched wrestling, so it works out. My clothes, I am basically a Walmart reject. Just some jeans and some graphic t-shirts that are a bit too big on me. I hate tight shirts and sleeves that don’t reach the elbows. Got the last pair of Vans from some shoe store. My beard is getting a bit too long for my taste since my trimmers are broke and I’m not completely shaving it off or taking the time to cut it little by little. Not really proud of any of it. Least proud is probably what I do with my hair. Aside from just not cutting it, I basically destroy the ends of it. My hair curls near the end. I get a lot of knots. I don’t like them, so I just rip them out, lol. Again, I just don’t take the time, nor do I really have the knowledge to deal with it anyway.
@yin i wonder about people who are uncomfortable In social settings going for a haircut regularly. I know someone where that is the case. do you think that is the case for you? at any rate, I find It interesting that the last city I lived in, people looked very much the same. However, where I am now is very diverse. when I see the people with their different way of dressing, I am intrigued by it, and appreciate their individualism.
@Scarlett My biggest issues are: I don’t know what kind of hairstyle/cut I want, and I hate how freshly cut hair tends to look. Like, I don’t want it looking like it was just cut, straight across. My then girlfriend cut my hair once. She did it good. She did something that probably wasn’t good for the hair, but it came out like it just grew to that length. It was awesome. I’m willing to bet that if I knew what I wanted and liked how they did it, I could go regularly if the price wasn’t too bad.
I like it looking diverse. I went to the mall once and this group of people walked in looking super gothic or something. They had long, dark hair. They had some weird contacts in. I think they had piercings. It was something that would catch your eye considering I never seen anything like it in person. I was hearing some people make fun of them or whatever, but I totally respected it. Rock it.
I think that I think about it more than I should. At my foundation I’m quite judgmental. Not something I am proud of, but even though I make a conscious effort, I know it is buried below and affects me.
I saw this picture and was asked what is the first word that comes to mind? I can honestly say I went blank. When I tried to gain some altitude from that reaction, I wondered “why?” and I felt like there must be a reason that was very personal to that person.That told me something about me. Just because I wouldn’t do anything at all like this; I can accept that others are motivated to be who they present themselves to be, any way they choose. I have no right to judge a reason that I have no way of possibly understanding. The “different strokes for different folks” orientation that I have accepted to some degree. I’d love to know peoples’ thoughts about the why, and I’m not looking for simplistic answers, or insulting opinions, but real reasons why someone might choose to do this. There seems to be some kind of anger related to it, versus artistic expression. I just know there could be a range of possible answers.
Personally, I don’t put a lot of time into my appearance. I cut my hair at the cheapest place I can find. I never use “product” I shave only when I want to show respect by making the effort. That likely goes unnoticed. I never seem to throw a shirt away, unless the collar is toast. I’m totally ok with putting on a shirt that has a pizza stain (that drives my wife crazy) I have been in meetings with people wearing $1,500 dollar suits, while I’m there with a pair of $10 jeans and a Levi’s denim jacket, where I am asked to give opinions where people actually listen…that totally slays me.
Most proud? Probably my grey goatee. I shave it off, but it always seem to want to come back after a few days of not shaving. Least? My schnozz. It is large and pointy and I hate how it always enters a room before I do, but I have learned to live with it. Dead on, I’m ok with my appearance but am always shocked when I catch a profile. Believe it or not, the first time I saw my profile was at the age of about 18. I was standing by a three way mirror and I swear to God that I thought it had to be someone else.
@spitfire3dc hmmm. I can’t say I wouldn’t be curious if I saw this gentleman out what his fascination is with changing the body in this way. Do you notice the people in Canada talking much about peoples appearances? In the city I used to live in, it was expected that women would “dress their age”, and many people looked the same.
@Scarlett People in Canada are no different than Americans in this regard. We have the same issues with body shaming, that is probably a global issue, as people resolve their own esteem issues, by trying to make someone feel worse, so they can feel better by comparison.
btw,regarding the reasons this guy may have done what he did. I saw a good answer to the question why. I thought I wrote it out, but don’t see it here.
It’s possible that this is a response of a person whose parents didn’t pay attention to him. His actions are a response that, in his mind, get him noticed.
16 responses to “Aesthetics”
Provided that they’re not horrificly ugly, not much.
It depends where you meet them
Probably not enough.
Meh. I don’t pay too much attention to my own appearance, but as i have some facial scars (nose, chin), i would love to do without them.
I don’t pay much attention to how others dress. Arizona is pretty much a t-shirt and jeans state. I am a t-shirt and jeans person. I dress better to go to Baha’i meetings and tend to incorporate scarves and wraps to give my outfit a Middle Eastern touch. If Immortal Pirate dresses in his Pirate clothing, then I dress in either womanly pirate, or wench. It depends on what my mood is. I have many pieces and dresses that are pirate/wench themed. I don’t like to wear the same outfit twice to whatever pirate themed event we are going to. If Immortal Pirate is going to dress in his kilt, I complement his attire with a Scottish long dress in the same Black Watch Tartan plaid as Immortal’s kilt. I add other pieces with it in layers. It is fun to dress up. I bought Immortal Pirate an elegant basket hilt Highland Claymore (big ass sword) and all the leather sheaths and belts to hold it at his side.
Last night, Immortal Pirate wore his kilt and all his authentic accessories — without the sword— and we went out to the Claim Jumper Restaurant for dinner. All eyes notice him. I did not feel like dressing up and trudged along behind him in jeans and t-shirt. We went to Hobby Lobby to look around. He lost me in the store and had my name called out on the sound system. I said, “Dumbass Scotsman! Where is he?” and about a dozen people pointed to where he was. He stands out in the crowd.
@ladybarbara HOOT MON…lol
@ladybarbara nice! Does Immortal Pirate asks you on dates? Does he treat you?
@Scarlett Well, it is not like we are not living together. He will say, “Let’s go out to eat somewhere. Where would you like to eat?” or, “Let’s go see a movie.” and then we go out to dinner and a movie. Yes, he pays for dates half the time. We have a household budget that allows for food in restaurants and going out to have some fun.
A fair amount; for it is their “visual identity”. It speaks volumes about the person, if we will let it do so without trying to attach undue judgement.
My own appearance?
I’m a guy.
And I live in a truck that is probably not much larger than a pantry! And almost all of my time and energy is devoted to a rough and mobile lifestyle. My clothes reflect this. Even my “good jeans” sport a bit of grease and signs of wear . . . because when something arises, like an emergency, you cannot always take time to change.
If people want to substitute some judgement on my clothes other than this, that is their freedom.
I think my feet are cute; and my belly bigger than it should be! Other than that, I’m OK!
@griz I think it is best to be comfortable when you have a job such as that! Do you sleep in your truck?
@Scarlett
I practically live there!
Really depends. There are some hairstyles and colors that really pop for me. Clothes, not as much. It could say a lot, or the person could be using that to trick people and throw them off. Some of my appearance is because I am lazy. Like, my hair. It is long because I hate taking the time out to cut it. Also, I just don’t really care about many hairstyles for myself. Was always a fan of long hair since I watched wrestling, so it works out. My clothes, I am basically a Walmart reject. Just some jeans and some graphic t-shirts that are a bit too big on me. I hate tight shirts and sleeves that don’t reach the elbows. Got the last pair of Vans from some shoe store. My beard is getting a bit too long for my taste since my trimmers are broke and I’m not completely shaving it off or taking the time to cut it little by little. Not really proud of any of it. Least proud is probably what I do with my hair. Aside from just not cutting it, I basically destroy the ends of it. My hair curls near the end. I get a lot of knots. I don’t like them, so I just rip them out, lol. Again, I just don’t take the time, nor do I really have the knowledge to deal with it anyway.
@yin i wonder about people who are uncomfortable In social settings going for a haircut regularly. I know someone where that is the case. do you think that is the case for you? at any rate, I find It interesting that the last city I lived in, people looked very much the same. However, where I am now is very diverse. when I see the people with their different way of dressing, I am intrigued by it, and appreciate their individualism.
@Scarlett My biggest issues are: I don’t know what kind of hairstyle/cut I want, and I hate how freshly cut hair tends to look. Like, I don’t want it looking like it was just cut, straight across. My then girlfriend cut my hair once. She did it good. She did something that probably wasn’t good for the hair, but it came out like it just grew to that length. It was awesome. I’m willing to bet that if I knew what I wanted and liked how they did it, I could go regularly if the price wasn’t too bad.
I like it looking diverse. I went to the mall once and this group of people walked in looking super gothic or something. They had long, dark hair. They had some weird contacts in. I think they had piercings. It was something that would catch your eye considering I never seen anything like it in person. I was hearing some people make fun of them or whatever, but I totally respected it. Rock it.
I think that I think about it more than I should. At my foundation I’m quite judgmental. Not something I am proud of, but even though I make a conscious effort, I know it is buried below and affects me.
I saw this picture and was asked what is the first word that comes to mind? I can honestly say I went blank. When I tried to gain some altitude from that reaction, I wondered “why?” and I felt like there must be a reason that was very personal to that person.That told me something about me. Just because I wouldn’t do anything at all like this; I can accept that others are motivated to be who they present themselves to be, any way they choose. I have no right to judge a reason that I have no way of possibly understanding. The “different strokes for different folks” orientation that I have accepted to some degree. I’d love to know peoples’ thoughts about the why, and I’m not looking for simplistic answers, or insulting opinions, but real reasons why someone might choose to do this. There seems to be some kind of anger related to it, versus artistic expression. I just know there could be a range of possible answers.
Personally, I don’t put a lot of time into my appearance. I cut my hair at the cheapest place I can find. I never use “product” I shave only when I want to show respect by making the effort. That likely goes unnoticed. I never seem to throw a shirt away, unless the collar is toast. I’m totally ok with putting on a shirt that has a pizza stain (that drives my wife crazy) I have been in meetings with people wearing $1,500 dollar suits, while I’m there with a pair of $10 jeans and a Levi’s denim jacket, where I am asked to give opinions where people actually listen…that totally slays me.
Most proud? Probably my grey goatee. I shave it off, but it always seem to want to come back after a few days of not shaving. Least? My schnozz. It is large and pointy and I hate how it always enters a room before I do, but I have learned to live with it. Dead on, I’m ok with my appearance but am always shocked when I catch a profile. Believe it or not, the first time I saw my profile was at the age of about 18. I was standing by a three way mirror and I swear to God that I thought it had to be someone else.
@spitfire3dc hmmm. I can’t say I wouldn’t be curious if I saw this gentleman out what his fascination is with changing the body in this way. Do you notice the people in Canada talking much about peoples appearances? In the city I used to live in, it was expected that women would “dress their age”, and many people looked the same.
@Scarlett People in Canada are no different than Americans in this regard. We have the same issues with body shaming, that is probably a global issue, as people resolve their own esteem issues, by trying to make someone feel worse, so they can feel better by comparison.
btw,regarding the reasons this guy may have done what he did. I saw a good answer to the question why. I thought I wrote it out, but don’t see it here.
It’s possible that this is a response of a person whose parents didn’t pay attention to him. His actions are a response that, in his mind, get him noticed.
Enjoying the cool summer breeze…lol