On Feb 18, 2020, my mom died. As a child, she had multiple bouts of rheumatic fever and pneumonia. It got so bad that they told her that if she had another episode, she’d die. As time went on, she met my father, consequently marrying him after he was drafted for the Viet Nam war and was released due to his injury. After a few years of marriage, my brother was born, then went on she’d get diabetes when she was pregnant with my sister (who died at 6 hours old) – a disease that never went away. Then I was born. A few years after this, my dad was laid off from the factory he was working at and was underemployed for basically a decade. At some point during all this, she was diagnosed with high blood pressure, a condition which she kept more or less under control for most of her life. Then the last 2-3 years she’s had it pretty rough. First, she fell and broke her wrist. After that healed (well as much as it would because it healed improperly due to the fact that she ignored the pain for like 3 weeks). Then when she was getting back to swimming she developed chronic venous insufficiency, resulting in a leaky wound that prevented her from going swimming. My dad massaged her legs on a daily basis… sometimes multiple times a day and she was on the mend. Five months ago she fell again, and she never quite regained her full mobility. About three weeks ago she caught a cold, which would later cause her heart to go into arrhythmia (classified as a heart attack). My brother and father found my mom unresponsive. She tried to get up but leaned back for about five minutes. They called 911 and the paramedics did CPR to her and rushed her to the hospital. They put her in a medically induced coma, and by the time she came out, she had severe brain damage. They were looking for a range of 8-13, and he had a 2-3. She had a DNR – ‘Do not resuscitate’ order for her living will which balanced 3 factors
1. quality of life
2. likelihood of a full recovery
3. cost of treatment
The decision was made to remove her life support and before the doctors could do it, she came around long enough to squeeze my hand goodbye, and what made her…. her was gone. The doctors came in and disconnected her breathing tubes and within 2 hours 18 minutes, she died.
You don’t know the level of pain a person can to go through until you have to WATCH your mother die! All those doctors, all the medical “EXPERTS”… and they could do **nothing**
I know it will be OK, but for now, it’s really rough, and might be for a long while.
Just thought I’d update everyone on here.