How often are you asked for relationship advice, either romantic or otherwise? I am asked for it a fair amount, and I try to share when asked, what it took me several years and several thousands of dollars to understand about relationships. However, most of the time, I feel like people want to complain about their relationship to someone, but not necessarily take concrete steps to work on the issues. Is it better just to listen and let vent rather than trying to proffer any kind of advice, or should one share any wisdom they have garnered through the years especially If you recognize the relationship as something toxic?
Further, do you have some common go to advice when it comes to relationships?
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8 responses to “Giving relationship advice?”
I try to avoid taking advice from anyone with enough personal baggage to fill a…
@immortal_pirate the question was about giving advice.
@Scarlett2 MEH – OLDPIRATE IS ON HIS OWN PROGRAM. HAPPENS WHEN YOURE REALLY OLD. HE DOESNT READ THE QUESTION, JUST REGURGITATES POLITICAL VOMIT. HE CANT COMMUNICATE LIKE THE REST OF US, ITS JUST PICS OF OLD STUFF WITH A COMMENT.
@Tits McGee He BLOCKED your nasty ass!!!~!~!
Hardly any at all, because I am surrounded by friends and relatives that are balanced and have good relationships.
There was one friend who felt lost in her life and could not find real love from any of the men she dated, and kept returning to an asshole. I told her to stay still and get to know herself. She is a wonderful woman and deserves to be treated better than men were treating her. I told her to watch for the red flag moments and walk away from any man that shows those red flag behaviors. Don’t accept bad treatment. She spent 2 years surrounding herself with friends that have good relationships, the kind of relationship that she wanted for herself. Those well balanced friends had a few male friends that were seriously looking for a woman like her. She has found someone. —- Now she complains that he is boring. Well, he is devoted to her. He doesn’t mistreat her. They never fight. The drama of conflicts is gone. Welcome to the world of good relationships. However, as long as she keeps finding something to complain about, she is not in my inner circle of friends.
I prefer well balanced friends that don’t need advice. So, I am no longer asked to give advice.
@ladybarbara I find this intriguing because a person can be in a healthy relationship and still experience conflict and ask for advice on their conflict. In fact, I once had a marriage counselor tell me the couples he worries about the most are the ones who claim they have no conflict.
@Scarlett2 All couples have disagreements. But no one comes to me for advice. The closest I have come to sharing advice was on a day Immortal Pirate and I got lost a few times while trying to find how to get to his daughter’s new house. Immortal gets short tempered with himself and traffic. I take it in my stride. I knew we would get there eventually. I try to make suggestions that are not comical quips, because he is not in the mood for teasing. We got there. As I was light heartedly relaying the adventure to his daughter, she said that she doesn’t know how I put up with his outbreaks of temper. I said that he was not angry at me, but angry about the situation and his own wrong turns. She said that she has a hard time with his temper outbursts. I said (and this is sideways advice to her), “He is as he is and I wouldn’t try to change him. It won’t work. He had a right to be frustrated and angry. You cannot change a man, or have him stuff his anger. He explodes and then finds solutions to the problem. I just take it in my stride and watch him find solutions.” It is like when he installed the new kitchen sink. I heard cuss words that I had forgotten existed —— but the sink is installed perfectly. No problem.
WHY DO YOU THINK YOU GET ASKED A LOT? NO OFFENSE, BUT FROM WHAT YOU ARE WRITING, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS MAY NOT HAVE BEEN GREAT. ARE YOU CONFIDENT YOU CAN GIVE GOOD ADVICE?