I simply drop it and walk away. To drop it, you lose the energy you are giving it. Know that the universe, or life will handle the other person for their behavior. I cannot control other people, or their behavior, but I can drop them out of my life. I consider the source and go on with my life. If it is something like my life insurance company confusing me for Immortal Pirate, I can control that by addressing the issue with my agent and making sure that there is no “umbrella”connection between our two separate insurance accounts.
Then, there is always the option to “block” annoying people.
Then, there are those Liberals in the family that insist on an hour-long rant about our President Trump. When my cousin does that in face to face talks, I can insist that she stop, or grab my keys and leave. If she is doing this on the phone and I still have other things to say to her, I can change the subject, or I will lay the phone down while she is ranting. I don’t have to listen to it. When she is done ranting, we can continue and get on another subject.
The emotional energy of anger once created, cannot be destroyed. Keeping it inside is the equivalent of trying to keep a hot coal in one’s pocket: it continues to burn.
One has to use the energy to release it — in a way that doesn’t feed or perpetuate the anger. Ideal would be to use the energy to defeat/dissipate itself. But this is a very advanced self-control technique . . . in a world where self-control is a very rarely-seen creature. Few seem aware that it even exists!
With basic levels of self-control one can hold “the coal” for a while inside themselves and release it shortly afterwards for some constructive task like accomplishing a daunting task one has been putting off, or that is anticipated on the horizon etc.
But in lieu of these things, one is best to release it in exercise ASAP. Use it to tire yourself out until the energy is totally expended. Then it cannot burn any psychological/spiritual ulcers inside you.
i channel it into house work or long steamy fast paced walks :D
ill check out this article. it is always good to be open to new perspectives and guides
just wanted to add that i am not sure i agree with one point of this article, i find venting lets it out or releases it. maybe that depends on the person. it says this intensifies, but i think if i am at the point of needing to vent it, it is because it is already so intense. you know? which is where exercise is handy. sometimes that is necessary before i can get to a point of empathy. which might be my flaw. normally i breath it out, focus on calming myself so i Can think it through. and anger isnt a state i live in all the time or anything, just how i deal.
i do still appreciate the perspective. good to think these thoughts!
@Fletch Because of the way I am, I prefer to be in full complete control of my faculties. Anything that would jeopardize my control is seen as a *very* bad thing
11 responses to “How do you get rid of anger?”
Get rid of? I vacuum seal it in airtight vessels to lock in freshness. Then I redistribute it to all my closest frenemies little by little.
You kids might wanna try Weird Al Yankovic for that whole distraction method.
I simply drop it and walk away. To drop it, you lose the energy you are giving it. Know that the universe, or life will handle the other person for their behavior. I cannot control other people, or their behavior, but I can drop them out of my life. I consider the source and go on with my life. If it is something like my life insurance company confusing me for Immortal Pirate, I can control that by addressing the issue with my agent and making sure that there is no “umbrella”connection between our two separate insurance accounts.
Then, there is always the option to “block” annoying people.
Then, there are those Liberals in the family that insist on an hour-long rant about our President Trump. When my cousin does that in face to face talks, I can insist that she stop, or grab my keys and leave. If she is doing this on the phone and I still have other things to say to her, I can change the subject, or I will lay the phone down while she is ranting. I don’t have to listen to it. When she is done ranting, we can continue and get on another subject.
The emotional energy of anger once created, cannot be destroyed. Keeping it inside is the equivalent of trying to keep a hot coal in one’s pocket: it continues to burn.
One has to use the energy to release it — in a way that doesn’t feed or perpetuate the anger. Ideal would be to use the energy to defeat/dissipate itself. But this is a very advanced self-control technique . . . in a world where self-control is a very rarely-seen creature. Few seem aware that it even exists!
With basic levels of self-control one can hold “the coal” for a while inside themselves and release it shortly afterwards for some constructive task like accomplishing a daunting task one has been putting off, or that is anticipated on the horizon etc.
But in lieu of these things, one is best to release it in exercise ASAP. Use it to tire yourself out until the energy is totally expended. Then it cannot burn any psychological/spiritual ulcers inside you.
i channel it into house work or long steamy fast paced walks :D
ill check out this article. it is always good to be open to new perspectives and guides
just wanted to add that i am not sure i agree with one point of this article, i find venting lets it out or releases it. maybe that depends on the person. it says this intensifies, but i think if i am at the point of needing to vent it, it is because it is already so intense. you know? which is where exercise is handy. sometimes that is necessary before i can get to a point of empathy. which might be my flaw. normally i breath it out, focus on calming myself so i Can think it through. and anger isnt a state i live in all the time or anything, just how i deal.
i do still appreciate the perspective. good to think these thoughts!
@Fletch i’m looking at that picture on my phone. Not quite sure what I’m looking at
@Jear77 its The Dude doin’ a J
@Fletch that would intensify mine, as the stufc doesn’t agree with my system
@Jear77 maybe the right strain?
@Fletch Because of the way I am, I prefer to be in full complete control of my faculties. Anything that would jeopardize my control is seen as a *very* bad thing
@Jear77
good for you – it’s not always easy.