@Scarlett Self awareness can be a two edged sword. It’s great to know who you are, but then you are left with the challenge of acceptance, or choosing to modify, if you opine that a particular behaviour needs attention.
I think I have arrived at a place of acceptance. I’ll share what I have concluded is good and try to avoid situations where the potential to display bad may exist.
I suppose that could be considered childish. Avoidance? But it does save me the time of post-stupidity self criticism, which may actually tie into a response to lb. I can accept criticism from those I respect and learn from it. That says something about my own sense of self esteem. Hmmmm.
@ladybarbara Patience really is a virtue. I wonder if you are born with it, or develop it over time, or can force yourself to learn it. I want to be patient, but it is very hard for me. Even when I am consciously trying; I know that I send out a vibe that it is not totally genuine.
Criticism is an interesting issue for me. When I am constructively criticized by someone I respect; I am all over it. I am grateful. I’ve been fortunate to have had some great experiences with criticism that I have paid attention to and learned from.
@spitfire3dc Constructive criticism will cause me to look at myself. I am grateful for it. It is the person who only wants to hurt and tear me down that turns me away. I can only take so much heckling and then I turn off and turn away. I consider the source and go on. I ignore that person, and they no longer exist to me.
I had to sit on this question for a few days, because I’m at a loss when it comes to rating aspects of myself as “best” or “worst”.
They are just “me”. Any of them can become asset or liability depending on how I choose to use them. And I can choose to use them in a vast array of ways, depending upon the “mood” I’m in.
I’ve had a bit of a down-turn lately in my mood, and I’ve used some of “my best” for ill purpose. And some of “my worst” have risen to become points of clarity and learning. (resulting BTW, in that discussion-invoking thread on “What is a better friend to you: good times or bad”.)
Sorry if I’m being a wet blanket on this discussion. I cannot help but think it’s related to the psych lectures I’m taking in lately!
@griz I’ll help you…your best are your observational skills, You can put photographic and behavioural observational capacities into the same bucket. Kinda interesting to me how they can parallel. You can “see” beyond the surface.
Your worst? Nah…not going to even try to figure one out. This question is really about understanding peoples’ capacities to be objective about themselves.
Worst ones? Even the one’s I’d rather not mention have been “wrestled to the ground” on many occasions and in crying “uncle” have revealed some of the greatest wisdoms.
(And some hop back up a time later and have to be wrestled to the ground again!)
It ties into my threads of late: how we can turn something that is “bad” into something good by learning a positive lessons from it. Which ties into the threads sometimes seen of “If you could change anything in your life (usually something bad) . . . would you?”.
And my answer remains, “No”. I would not be in the excellent place I am today if perhaps even one trial or suffering was removed.
I applaud and encourage our ability to be objective about ourselves. And also our ability to be OK with who we are: warts and all.
Self-doubt and regret are pernicious enemies of self awareness and actualization.
10 responses to “What, in your opinion, is your best characteristic? Worst?”
Best: My male white privilege.
Worst: I’m not as ambidextrous as I should be.
I think my best characteristic is self awareness. My worst? quite possibly my child ego state that I still slip Into at inopportune times.
@Scarlett Self awareness can be a two edged sword. It’s great to know who you are, but then you are left with the challenge of acceptance, or choosing to modify, if you opine that a particular behaviour needs attention.
I think I have arrived at a place of acceptance. I’ll share what I have concluded is good and try to avoid situations where the potential to display bad may exist.
I suppose that could be considered childish. Avoidance? But it does save me the time of post-stupidity self criticism, which may actually tie into a response to lb. I can accept criticism from those I respect and learn from it. That says something about my own sense of self esteem. Hmmmm.
Mine? I am dependable and a nurturer, and patience is my go-to characteristic. My worst is that I do not take criticism very well.
@ladybarbara Patience really is a virtue. I wonder if you are born with it, or develop it over time, or can force yourself to learn it. I want to be patient, but it is very hard for me. Even when I am consciously trying; I know that I send out a vibe that it is not totally genuine.
Criticism is an interesting issue for me. When I am constructively criticized by someone I respect; I am all over it. I am grateful. I’ve been fortunate to have had some great experiences with criticism that I have paid attention to and learned from.
@spitfire3dc Constructive criticism will cause me to look at myself. I am grateful for it. It is the person who only wants to hurt and tear me down that turns me away. I can only take so much heckling and then I turn off and turn away. I consider the source and go on. I ignore that person, and they no longer exist to me.
I had to sit on this question for a few days, because I’m at a loss when it comes to rating aspects of myself as “best” or “worst”.
They are just “me”. Any of them can become asset or liability depending on how I choose to use them. And I can choose to use them in a vast array of ways, depending upon the “mood” I’m in.
I’ve had a bit of a down-turn lately in my mood, and I’ve used some of “my best” for ill purpose. And some of “my worst” have risen to become points of clarity and learning. (resulting BTW, in that discussion-invoking thread on “What is a better friend to you: good times or bad”.)
Sorry if I’m being a wet blanket on this discussion. I cannot help but think it’s related to the psych lectures I’m taking in lately!
@griz I’ll help you…your best are your observational skills, You can put photographic and behavioural observational capacities into the same bucket. Kinda interesting to me how they can parallel. You can “see” beyond the surface.
Your worst? Nah…not going to even try to figure one out. This question is really about understanding peoples’ capacities to be objective about themselves.
@spitfire3dc
Well thanks for that!
Worst ones? Even the one’s I’d rather not mention have been “wrestled to the ground” on many occasions and in crying “uncle” have revealed some of the greatest wisdoms.
(And some hop back up a time later and have to be wrestled to the ground again!)
It ties into my threads of late: how we can turn something that is “bad” into something good by learning a positive lessons from it. Which ties into the threads sometimes seen of “If you could change anything in your life (usually something bad) . . . would you?”.
And my answer remains, “No”. I would not be in the excellent place I am today if perhaps even one trial or suffering was removed.
I applaud and encourage our ability to be objective about ourselves. And also our ability to be OK with who we are: warts and all.
Self-doubt and regret are pernicious enemies of self awareness and actualization.
Best: Optimistic
Worst: Procrastinator