Do you know people who talk a lot? Do you feel as accepting of them as people who talk an average amount or those who are quiet? In which category do you fall?
I have known some who almost literally do not stop talking. I am a fairly quiet introvert, but will contribute when I feel I have something of value to add.
Do you think that people who talk a lot can be friends, partners with quieter people?
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17 responses to “What is your impression of people who talk a lot?”
Do you think that people who talk a lot can be friends, partners with quieter people?
OBVIOUSLY TALKERS CAN BE FRIENDS WITH NON-TALKERS. ARE YOU SAYING THEY CAN’T?
I have a cousin who calls me and will talk non-stop for 3 hours. I cannot get a word in edgewise, so, I just listen. She repeats and repeats stories, even stories she shared days before. She will be talking about something that happened today, then remember something from 50 years ago — and blend it in with today’s story, as if it just happened. It is not a lie, but the stories happened 50 years apart!!! Sometimes, I will see her number on the caller ID and I won’t answer because I don’t have 3 hours to listen to her. I love her dearly and have loved her for 70 years. She is my rock when I need advice and have a few hours to listen to her advice and the history behind her advice.
Her husband will talk for hours about stuff that I did not ask him about. He has a long monologue on every topic and will go on and on about the history of oil, or the history of cement down through the ages. He thinks that it is what women like to do, so he fills the hours with words.
Then there is my cousin’s Mom, my Aunt Kay. She has a two hour monologue that never changes. She talks non-stop and I can set the phone down and pick it up an hour later (to see where she is in her monologue) and she is still chattering away. I listen to her. She was like a second Mom to me in my life. She taught me how to use a fork when I was a baby and taught me not to pee in flower planters. Without her, Lord knows how I would be eating, or where I would be peeing.
I am really shy on the phone and in person. I’m not much for talking. I listen more than I talk. Immortal Pirate likes to share old stories now and then. If I have heard his stories before, I let him tell it anyway. If I tell him a story I shared before, he will finish it for me to get me to shut up. For the most part, we are well balanced, but I have more patience than he does.
My long winded relatives are just as dear as my quick “just the facts and hang up” friends. I don’t rate one bunch over the others.
@ladybarbara I had a ex husband that did it and sometimes I would put phone down and pick up later. I like some friends I have in my life now that do it, but I have to admit it does drain me.
@Scarlett2 It would be draining if I allow it to be draining. I do admit that I find it hard to follow along my cousin’s long winded string of stories. I find myself wondering who she is talking about now. But, I hang in there and hope she will mention their name again. Even if I never find out who she is gossiping about, it doesn’t matter. Since I am not one to repeat what she says. I let it fly by and let it go. Letting it go makes it less draining.
Her mother, my Aunt Kay, has the same monologue. I am in her monologue and she recites how hard it was carrying me around as a baby. (That was 72 years ago when she carried me.) So, I laugh and tell her that it would be fun if she would carry me around again. But, we are both old women and there is no chance of that happening. It pulls her out of her story to realize that more than 70 years has past and she is still complaining.
I am generally pretty quiet. But, I am bold.
Me & my Angel. We have a Name written on us. It is. I Am What I Am. So, quiet, bold. Like a razor balloon.
@five2one SUBLIME
I like them. One of my all time crushes was that girl who wouldnt stop talking from the 80s movie Real Genius.
@2Thrash we differ in this maybe in that I don’t always like or dislike them, but I find them draining. Do you interrupt at any point or do you just allow them to go on forever? I have met some who literally do NOT stop talking. Cant recall seeing that movie. I’ll have to check out a clip of it or something.
@Scarlett2 I let them continue so they are busy with something and I dont have to talk.
@2Thrash quite fascinating! do you consider yourself a quiet person? shy? is it uncomfortable for you to talk to people? or is this just a personal preference?
@Scarlett2 just a personal preference I guess. It’s funny, I hear from second hand (i think is the term) that people figure that I’m shy after communicating with me.
@2Thrash interesting! maybe some people conflate shy and quiet…there is a great book called, Quiet-the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking
It really depends on what is spewing from their mouth. Some people like that are funny a lot of the time, so I can deal with it. Others are more toxic or talking about pointless things. I can’t deal with that as much. Thinking back on it, I somehow attracted people who talked a lot. Some were annoying, but I didn’t have the heart to say anything about it or walk away. It’s probably why they always stuck around even though I rarely said anything. I think there could be some healthy relationships like that. A person may like a person’s voice and what they say while the other enjoys the silence from time to time.
@yin maybe they gravitate to people they think are gonna listen to them. DO you consider yourself an active listener?
@Scarlett2 I think I used to be. My attention span may have taken a hit in the past few years or so. Even in times where I do listen and get the general idea, I still forget key details. Mainly names. If you introduce yourself and then immediately talk about what you need to, I’m about 97% sure I won’t remember what your name was. It happened somewhat recently. One would think that I would pay closer attention to the name since I know this about myself, but I never remember in the moment. Which I think also then falls under the social anxiety and awkward category. I try so much to be normal and respond normal that my brain does that instead of take information or something. At least, that is how it feels. Went to a store recently and I felt I kept pretty good eye contact. Remembering what I wanted/needed to say was completely shot. Lol, a bit of a lose/lose.
They’re coked up.
@luftballooneyegouge ha ha- thats what I kinda think!